cacneas:

look i don’t know about yall but queer is literally the go-to slur here in The South. more than the f-slur! i’ve heard it all my life here in mississippi… and i still do… today… AS A SLUR… in 2017.

i don’t care how ya wanna label yourself! im sure most people don’t! what they have a problem with is when you apply the word to them??

i can’t think of any situation where i’d be comfortable with someone calling me queer without flinching. when i was hospitalized for suicidal tendencies a year ago, the nurse admitting me said, in disdain, “what are you, some kind of queer or something?” 

… it’s still a derogatory, Othering word here in this very reality that i live!

so maybe come down from your perspective in the Big Cities and consider what it’s like for rural and southern kids, perhaps? im glad that you have had an experience that allows for queer to be a good and comforting word to you– i really am– and no one can take that away from you… but, like, people who don’t want to hear it probably have reasons that aren’t radfems brainwashed us