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splendidland:

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splendidland:

somethin’ i am a little bit sick of is that because i am a 6′2 trans woman, i often get people commenting on my selfies with things like “please step on me” and “i want you to beat me up”. what is it about me that makes you think i’d want to do either of those things? i am very gentle and also my body is chubby and weak and i get fatigued from walking up anything steeper than a 20 degree angle hill, i’m definitely not going to have the energy to defeat you in combat.

i think there’s a Bad Attitude online that it’s somehow okay to make unsolicited advances towards people if you’re submissive about it. i’m a very affectionate person but comments like that from strangers make me feel uncomfortable.

i see a similar thing to this too where trans men are constantly infantilized and refferred to by cutesy terms, and like, and obviously this isn’t something i personally experience, but i’m really suspicious of the ways people describe trans bodies without our consent.
i love strong women and i love cute men, but i’m so tired of how the gender expression of trans people is so often dismissed in favour of someones personal preferences. i’m not a big muscle babe who can beat you up, i have about as good fighting abilities as a 3d character who’s motion capture was performed by a bionicle, and i am sure there are a lot of trans men out there who are very bothered by being called things like “cute soft boii” or whatever.

it’s also an example of how trans bodies that don’t conform to cis expectations get turned into an object that’s fetishized along multiple fronts, you can’t just be seen as a man you’re someones smol cutesy boy not just as a woman but as a muscley strong gladiator woman.

this is all extremely true.

note that also the infantilisation of trans men and the idea of trans women as inherently violent and dangerous (i.e. man-like) has different material effects, i.e. trans men considered as a non-threatening kind of man allowing trans men to get away with abuse in many cases, while trans women considered inherently suspect and ready to be violently attacked and expelled whenever it’s convenient. [that doesn’t mean the infantilisation isn’t extremely crappy to trans men who aren’t abusers, it’s an awful dynamic all round]

it also should be noted that this fucked dynamic is heavily connected to white supremacy – the same “please beat me up” shit is regularly applied to woc (trans and cis, and especially Black women), [and also trans- and Black-coded fictional characters, i.e. media consumption reflects the real life dynamic], by white wlw – including white trans women. so this is doubly compounded for trans woc.