alogicals:

not to Discourse but if people stopped pretending attraction can be evenly split into sexual and romantic attraction for once instead of accepting that it works and feels differently for everyone maybe they would realize that you can be attracted to someone without wanting to have sex with them right now this second, or ever, and we could all stop pathologizing and micromanaging the particulars of our sexual orientation (the term deriving from sex as a word for gender at the time it was created, not sex as the act) and come to the collective understanding that the labels gay/bi/lesbian/straight on their own already include every single possible relationship to sex you could ever possibly have and absolutely no qualifiers, ace/demi or otherwise, are needed, because attraction as a concept encompasses more than just the urge to have sex with another person

it’d be also super neat if we could stop pretending that it’s somehow more inclusive or easier for people with a fraught relationship to sex to split sexual orientation into Ace and Non-Ace as if it’s any help at all to shove e.g. lesbians who struggle with the sexual aspect of lesbian identification off into their own restricted zone away from Normal Lesbianism that requires a special prefix before lesbian, instead of normalizing a definition of lesbian that includes any and all ways people might feel about sex and that their way of feeling attraction is just as much a normal part of lesbianism as anyone else’s, no qualifiers needed

the idea of a split romantic and sexual orientation is an unhealthy, pathologizing way of looking at sexual orientations that’s just gonna end up alienating people who feel lost in mainstream depictions of sexuality even more and i am done with pretending that i am okay with that kind of rhetoric being spread