xeexara:

homojabi:

I was watching a documentary about the children of gay parents and the son of two lesbians put lipstick on at a store and some lady freaked out and told him to take it off because it “wasn’t for him” and one of his moms was just like “you don’t have to take it off you know, it’s okay for boys to wear makeup. You can wear whatever you want. Just because you freaked this lady out about her own gender crisis doesn’t mean you have to, it’s not that weird for boys to wear makeup.” And honestly? It’s so ridiculous that gay and trans parents are viewed as the reason why their children either express that they’re gay and/or trans themselves or present in a more gender non-conforming way, rather than it being their acceptance of existing as LGBT/GNC that’s the reason why. 

It’s easy for homophobes and transphobes to blame the parents for forcing their child to be LGBT/GNC when the truth is that all these parents do is… affirm that it’s okay and normal to not be cis/straight/gender-conforming. The reason why the children of LGBT parents might appear to be

LGBT/GNC

more often is because these children know that it’s okay. They don’t have to worry that their parents will hate them, disown them, kick them out, etc. for expressing these behaviors, unlike the children of cis/straight parents do, which definitely accounts for more

LGBT/GNC kids in families with gay and trans parents. Cis/straight people act like it’s a virtue that less of their children are LGBT/GNC, but it’s not a virtue that the children of cis/straight parents have to stay closeted for so long or feel that they can’t come out to their parents, and it’s certainly not a virtue that their parents never make it an effort to affirm that behavior that might be

LGBT/GNC is okay too.

Sure, they can speculate that what gay and trans parents do (existing as gay and trans, apparently) is harmful, but I don’t think there’s anything more harmful than growing up with parents who make it clear that being

LGBT/GNC is unacceptable and wrong. So yeah, in a way I guess gay and trans parents are the reason why their kids are comfortable expressing that they’re LGBT/GNC more often, but that is in no way a bad thing.

This documentary was fantastic. Think it’s called Gayby baby. It should be on Netflix