storlyghtbaby:

The reason why cishet fans always pull the “well they’ve never SAID they were gay” or “I’ve never seen them do anything gay” is because for a lot of them unless they literally cannot pick up on anything coded if their life depended on it and a lot of the time that’s the point of coded language!

Yes, Becky, to your Hetero self it doesn’t seem that gay but to other LGBT+ people we can understand the little nuances of saying “oh my ideal type is a person” instead of specifying a girl or a guy, or how LGBT+ people can interact with each other and the energy in a moment changes because you know that other person is like you and you’re safe to let a little bit of that out.

They can’t be outright with their sexuality because the environment isn’t safe. These idols are being marketed as a teenaged girl’s fake boyfriend or a teenaged boy’s fake girlfriend. If you break that illusion you risk your entire career and everything you’ve worked for. People unstan and send death threats when their bias dates someone of the opposite sex and is this “taken from them,” so imagine if they knew there was really not shot because they weren’t even attracted to them in the first place?

We western fans are extremely lucky that we’ve grown up in a time where being gay is being (relatively) “normalized”. South Korea isn’t as inviting as that in terms of sexuality stuff. Men in their military are literally breaking the law if they’re found out to be gay. Straight cis people don’t understand the threat of displaying their sexuality because their sexuality is accepted as the default and the norm and the only one that’s really ok in a lot of places.

Also, a lot of Straights display their fondness/affection for their desired people as gross over displays of sex so unless they see Yoongi literally taking a dick or Amber scissoring someone they don’t pick it up as anything. They have no idea that gay romance and gay softness exist because to them being gay is a fanfic trope for smut and nothing else.

At the end of the day, this is a blogging website. The gay people on here aren’t running around calling their idols “Daddy” at fansigns or following them around their hotels for a picture like a lot of you straights seem to like to do. We’re out here trying to find comfort in a space where we can discuss “Hey, maybe my fave is like me and maybe they would like me back in some other world.” If you’re cishet and you feel fine not assuming sexualities until the default of heterosexuality is eliminated then you are an issue. Gay people talking and discussing isn’t harmful but you erasing the possibility for that is. I guarantee Sehun doesn’t care that blogs on this website think he likes guys and he isn’t hurt by it in any way. If you think it’s an issue and so disturbing chances are you’re just prejudiced against LGBT+. There are different levels of hate and maybe you’re not sending people to conversion camps or making military bans on transgender people but you’re feeding into that culture by trying to silence people who even dare to muse that someone they admire could potentially be LGBT+.

Tl:dr – Straight people, no one needs to prove they’re gay but you guys need to stop assuming everyone is cishet until proven otherwise, and trust LGBT+ people when they have a hunch. If you say idols’ sexuality doesn’t matter and then get mad at gay people saying they’re gay because that makes you uncomfortable, congrats you’re a homophobe 🙂