Society portrays being a trauma survivor as this ‘beautifully’ tragic experience.

traumasurvivors:

Society likes to talk about the survivors that overcame the bad, and came out
kind. 

They like to
talk about the childhood sexual abuse survivor who became a social worker to
help children in their situation.

They like to
talk about the rape survivor who now runs a campaign to help others in their
situation.

They like to
talk about the domestic abuse survivor who took an stand and found his voice. He now speaks
out and spreads awareness for others in his situation.

They like to talk about the emotional abuse survivor who found her strength and
uses a public platform to empower others.

While these
are all amazing things, they can leave survivors that are struggling with the
messy parts feeling like they’re ‘wrong’ or ‘weak’ because they can’t handle it
so gracefully.

Society
likes to tell us that ‘everything happens for a reason.’ 

Excuse my
language, but it’s bullshit.

I see you.

I see the survivors that went through their trauma and didn’t come out kind,
but came out mistrusting and hardened. They came out bitter.

I see the
tears. And I don’t mean the ‘beautiful’ crying that you see shown, but the ugly
ones. The heart wrenching sobs that take over your entire body and leave your
eyes a bloodshot mess and snot coming out of your nose. I see the sobs that
consume and can even leave you throwing up uncontrollably. 

I see the
angry survivors. I see the screaming and the angry outbursts. I see broken
glass. And then there’s the quiet anger. I see the bloodied knuckles, cuts and
burns because someone has so much anger but internalizes it to not ‘disturb’
others.

I see you. I
see all of you.

And there is nothing wrong with you.

Society tries to portray us all as these beautifully tragic individuals. No one
wants to believe something so terrible could happen in our world. So they deal
with it by saying ‘everything happens for a reason, just look at how it changes
these people for the better.’

Rape is
ugly. Abuse is ugly. Your healing does not have to be beautifully poetic.

Don’t let society bring you down. You ARE strong. You survived. And don’t let
anyone make you feel ashamed because you didn’t do it the way society thinks
you should.