moirarty:

“biromantic heterosexual” isn’t a legit good thing, it’s a product of internalised homophobia in a violent homophobic society. there are no bi straight people. there are no straight gay people. apparently, this is a controversial statement. stop using the split attraction model outside of the ace spectrum. stop using the split attraction model to call people “homosexuals” to mean sexual attraction only. it’s vintage homophobia. ask yourself why you need to use the split attraction model at all and why het, gay or bi ace can’t do what the split attraction model does, only better. but especially, the more so if you’re het, stop telling gay, bi and questioning kids that “romantic and sexual attraction can be completely different from each other!”. they need to hear literally anything but “u could be homosexual heteroromantic uwu!”. you’re causing so much pain. you’re causing so much damage.

edit for transparency (OP unedited above): i learned that apparently, because i from the bottom of my heart can’t be bothered to look up the “history” of it, the split attraction model was made by and for trauma survivors after i made this post and i don’t care anymore! just because it helps you to pretend that the -sexual suffix means physical sex instead of sex as in sexus as in gender doesn’t mean it doesn’t harm us who are gay or bi. the split attraction model and people who actively and uncritically promote it are homophobic and even, yes, anti-ace and anti-aro. this whole concept is ahistorical and fundamentally useless and harmful, especially for questioning kids. there are many ways you can talk about asexuality and aromanticism without it and without promoting internalised homo- and biphobia to people.