bananajeph:

Ngl i would prefer if gay/lesbian ppl would just say they wouldnt date nonbinary people then be like “id date women/men and female/male aligned people:)” bc like… that basically just acts like all male/female aligned enbies are somehow the same or similar enough of a gender to men/women for it to count under their attraction

What they should say, if they are willing to date nb people, is do it on a CASE BY CASE BASIS

Like, not every single binary aligned nb would want to be included in their attraction (example: since my gender is male and female, i would only want bi/pan/etc ppl dating me bc my gender isnt just one thing. no matter how you look at it theyd have to erase part of my gender), but also some binary aligned people nbs WOULD be fine with being included!

it really just depends on the person! So instead of being like “im a lesbian so im attracted to women and women aligned people,” (which might make some female aligned ppl (or partially female aligned ppl like me) uncomfortable) you SHOULD say “im a lesbian so im attracted to women, but i would be fine with dating a nonbinary person if they were okay with dating a lesbian.”

that way it doesnt group every binary aligned person into “basically female/male” but it still shows that you, personally, are willing to date specific nonbinary people who are okay with dating someone whos sexuality is specifically attracted to one gender

anyways- theres nothing wrong w being gay/lesbian and dating nb people, but please srop with the “im gay so i like men and male aligned people” thing, because it acts like “male aligned” is one specific experience, and not an umbrella term that includes SO MANY different experiences, including ons that ARENT MALE AT ALL (i.e. someone who relates to manhood but doesnt actually feel like a man whatsoever)

Basically, stop acting like every single binary aligned person has the same exact experience and we good

anyways this has been my ted talk