i think the thing that makes me angriest about the entire culture of people being forced to set up online fundraisers for things like medical treatments and basic necessities is that at least 99% of the people who donate are people who are ALSO struggling but just slightly less, people who think “well i was saving this $20 for lunch this week but this person who needs chemo could probably use it more”, while a single billionaire could fund every online fundraiser in existence and not even notice a dent in their wealth
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Okay often times when a gay fan is saying bts is gay it’s because of representation. It’s not meant in malice or to hurt of fetishize it’s because they see attributes of themselves in certain idols and put that “label” on them.
Most of the times (I’m saying most.) when a straight fan says bts is gay it’s because they apply it to a ship. And the whole ‘omg oppas Gay jikook is real’ things is very bothersome to gay fans because it’s only really seen as a ship. Don’t get me wrong I love ships, but when they’re done right and people acknowledge that all ships are fake until the idols themselves come out and say ‘were a couple’. There’s a lot of toxicity in shipping culture and some heterosexual people forget that actual gay lives exist and we don’t want to be treated like we’re some form of entertainment. I really don’t give fuck if straight people ship as long as they’re not bringing in pedophillia, abusive relationships and other toxic themes into gay relationships because you love angst when there’s already stigma and stereotypes surrounding the gay community and our relationships.
What I’m really trying to get at here is that: as a community gay people are trying to find representation and people we can look up to and relate with, straight people entering a conversation about possibly gay idols is bad. Like if there was a discussion going on about people who own pet snakes and put hats on them you wouldn’t come and say I don’t own a pet snake or have hats for it but I think they look better in scarves, snakes and scarves are my favorite.
TLDR; with shipping culture being so fetishy we keep our guard up when you say they’re gay cause we assume you’re going to start talking about your ship and possibly disregard actual gay people and the fact that we’re not entertainment.
But reylo really is the most heterosexual ship out there because the man’s violence and anger and general immaturity are taken to be romantic and the woman’s clear feelings of disgust/hatred/fear of the man are completely ignored.
Lesbians are usually “bitter” towards straight girls because they’re homophobic, not because they’re not attracted to us. The idea that lesbians can not feel disinterest or annoyance with straight girls for any other reason apart from rejection plays into this idea the lesbians are just predatory creeps who can’t take no for an answer and that straight girls are just the primary focus in our lives. Not to mention it doesn’t hold straight girls accountable for their homophobia.
and straight girls are downright cruel when they decide to equate us to men being predatory, and they get excused for it, because they are ~real~ girls.
Not to mention straight girls can be predatory towards lesbians by fetishizing us, making inappropriate sexual advances, and not respecting our boundaries but it’s considered ok but us lezzies simply can’t refuse!
but wow when you get to kiss someone you have feelings for and you’ve wanted to kiss them for the longest time and you get to stroke their face and you’re so aware of their body and how nice their lips feel
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