i think the moment i was disillusioned about life was when i was maybe 7 years old and realized the reason all my friends had become assholes was because boys aren’t allowed to have any physcial contact that isn’t fighting
my parents were hippie feminists so my brother and i could play clapping games and sleep in puppy piles and give each other weird hairdos, but all the ‘normal’ boys just up and stopped knowing how to touch anyone without hitting sometime between kindergarten and first grade
and my little kid mind briefly saw the vastness of life stretching out in front of all of us, and all the hugs everyone would need and not get, and for a moment i was just like
maybe life is not such a good idea after all
I grew up around a Russian ballet school. Let me tell you something about Russian men: They touch each other. Especially dancers, who are in my experience almost always super tactile people. They rough house like Americans, but they also hug each other, and sit on each other’s laps, and share blankets when it’s cold backstage.
So I grew up knowing full well that the whole Men Don’t Touch thing was puritanical bullshit.
What I was absolutely not prepared for, however, is the super intense effect it has on straight men’s romantic relationships.
Because when you are literally the only person it is okay for your boyfriend to touch, Jesus fucking Christ, that changes the game.
I strongly suspect that a lot of Str8 Dude feelings of entitlement to women’s bodies, particularly the bodies of their wives and girlfriends, is a direct result of those women being the only non-violent physical contact they’re allowed to have.
I know for certain that the framing of any and all platonic physical contact as un-manly has been directly responsible for a lot of sexual dysfunction (and then the attendant misery of trying to get that treated at the ripe old age of 22) with at least one of my exes. It’s a mess when you can’t get it up because you’re depressed and want to be held but you’ve been brainwashed into thinking what you actually want is sex because being held is for girls.
Amazing how the erectile dysfunction went completely away when he learned the difference between feeling horny and feeling cuddly. /sarcasm
“I strongly suspect that a lot of Str8 Dude feelings of entitlement to women’s bodies, particularly the bodies of their wives and girlfriends, is a direct result of those women being the only non-violent physical contact they’re allowed to have.”
Omfg
No wonder the worst of them seem crazy… profound isolation does exactly that
When I taught in Japan, the boys were all super comfortable with each other. They’d sit on laps and hug and roughhouse and it wasn’t seen as bad ? Like it surprised me at first, but then you realize the problem is with so many men feeling that they have to prove… something? I dunno. I personally don’t like hugs or touches, but that is my own personal reasons and nothing of how I was brought up.
Shit it almost sounds as if white supremacy and toxic masculinity are inextricably linked
The racist Woman Brianna “Breezy” Borchu (student at the Iniversity of Hartford) who openly admitted to poisoning and almost killing her roommate has an Instagram dedicated to her doing different braiding styles including dreads and corn rows. A lot of her captions talk about how the hairstyles are taking her clients “to the islands” for a day.
What is happening….
So she hates Black women but wants to take her clients “to the Islands” see how racism is a mix of jealousy, hate, and worship?
Not to sound like an ormy but bts dedicating the love yourself campaign to actual teenagers in need and donating 500 million won to said teenagers is not only extremely generous and thoughtful and amazing but also consistent with what they’ve been saying since debut like appreciating and encouraging youth is something you can tell they’re genuinely passionate about like it’s not just a concept for an album or whatever like it’s rlly the way they think and it’s stuff like that that makes bts the best group not only music but the way that they convey messages through words and actions
The single best piece of writing advice I ever got was from a professor teaching a playwriting class, who told us that in every scene, especially scenes that were just dialogue, every character should want something. Making every character in a scene have a goal is an easy way to avoid dialogue that’s just exposition, and to make sure your dialogue drives the plot forward and/or reveals characterization.
It doesn’t have to be complicated or super weighty–as long as the characters have a goal, there will be tension in the scene even if the goals are small. Character X wants to borrow a pen, and character Y wants to make a good impression on character X. X wants to insult Y until they go away, and Y wants to annoy X by pretending not to notice the insults. X wants Y to give them the last slice of pizza, and Y is super full but still doesn’t want X to have it. No matter what your character’s goal is, it will reveal something about who that character is to the reader, and the conflict between your characters’ goals will give the scene momentum.
Chrisette supported her white supremacist, sexist, homophobic, transphobic, lying, bullying president by performing at his inauguration simply for a check after her loyal fans begged her to stand with them and drop out, while Tina voted for her president because of their shared “Christian values.” Consequences. Y’all made y’all bed. Now lay.
^^^^
And apparently Chrisette lied about her miscarriage and stole someone’s pictures about their own miscarriage in an attempt to finesse sympathy from us all.
^ Son, what in the hell?!?! See, I was gonna leave that alone. I was not about to bring up her posts on the suicidal thoughts and the miscarriage. That ain’t nothing to scold somebody on simply because she got herself in the situation I posted about above.
Anywho, I just looked it up. You are right, @dynastylnoire. TF is wrong with her?!?!…
In another post, accompanied by a photo of what appears to be blood clots, the singer says she was covering up her pain with working out at the gym, adding “I’d cry my way thru workouts. My trainer would cheer me up. God bless him. I pushed so hard and ate so much protein, Iscarfed away my hurt.”
She detailed how she had a long menstrual cycle when she noticed that “something came out” of her. “It was my child. The one my love and I worked so hard on. I never knew I could allow myself to be so broken that my physical body would break down. A miscarriage? Me?”
Fans were quick to call her on the photo, claiming it was not hers and that it was taken from a community user named “tgoood” from babycenter.
“If this is a repost of someone else’s miscarriage this is literally despicable. You could’ve been forgiven for singing at the inauguration this is toooooo far. Wow,” a commenter said. Chrisette has yet to respond to the allegations of her using a fake photo.
The same pic on her IG, originally posted by a woman on a forum in 2014, is found here. [Warning: It’s very graphic]
Black Ghost aka Juodasis Vaiduoklis is a bronze sculpture sculpted by Svajunas Jurkus and Sergejus Plotnikovas located at the port of Klaipėda, Lithuania.
Nope
HOW CAN YOU TALK ABOUT THE BLACK GHOST AND NOT POST A NIGHT PICTURE?
Lady Jace Of The Fae 
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