goldenpoc:

i-rather-be-lost:

yellowjuice:

tijopi11:

Why are people having so much issue with the article, I agreed with it? The title isn’t the most eloquent thing ever but the article wasn’t encouraging cheating, where you go behind your partners back, but instead looking at the issue of cheating as a not black-and-white thing where there’s one horribly evil person who just wanted to have fun/get laid with one traumatized-for-life victim. Instead, like most- nah, let me say with ANYTHING in real life beyond fiction, the article sees the grays in cheating and why the person cheated in the first place. Not to say that cheating isn’t a horrible thing to do, but I feel like people need to understand that there are reasons people do the things they do. People who cheat are human beings. They could feel horrible about it, they could be trapped in a marriage or relationship that they don’t feel they can escape, they can feel insecure and unloved. Again, not to say it’s something you should ever do, but dehumanizing someone over a mistake is just as bad in my opinion. There’s nowhere where they can talk about their experiences, and it’s likely we know a lot of people who have cheated in our lives even if they haven’t (or were too scared) to tell us about it. 

“dehumanizing someone over a mistake”

😂😂😂

Exactly! Mistake my ass. Fuck that bs. The only time I would find cheating susceptible is if that partner was going through a really toxic and abusive relationship with their other partner, and they need to find a scapegoat/help. Other than that, you can’t sit there and have a person completely in love with you, have a soft spot for you and just cheat on them. Rather it’s emotional or physical. It’s unacceptable. And then to call it a mistake? Like how much of a dunce can you be?

gothhabiba:

gothhabiba:

gothhabiba:

whites have two settings 1. blatant disrespect for boundaries, exotification, Orientalism, fetishisation, tokenisation, intrusion 2. performative distancing and creepy deference tinged with discomfort and even disgust but packaged as respect for boundaries

OR #1 that’s disguised as #2 (also known as Umami, The Third White)

#1

  • has a “favourite” culture that they have no connexion to, covers their online spaces & perhaps their physical person in (orientalist approximations of) its aesthetics
  • deliberately darkened or obscured icons
  • Is Just So Fascinated With Other Languages
  • Wants To Be Your Friend RIGHT AWAY. REALLY wants to take selfies with you
  • describes skin colours using terms for food
  • wants mixed children, will tell you all about it
  • GOES AFTER poc who are probably younger than they are or otherwise disadvantaged compared to them. love bombing, heavy flirting. will probably dump all of them for a white person when it’s time to settle down
  • definitely wants a harem
  • “blatant racism is okay if I package it in sj rhetoric”

#2

  • “can I follow if I’m white or do you not want my white eyes on this sacred poc space”
  • “boost poc voices” (I don’t have an opinion about this I am not worthy)
  • “#im white” on posts that aren’t even really about racism at all but that just like, barely mention someone not being white
  • Don’t Let White Children Dress Up As Characters Who Are Racially Impu– uh, I mean, who are People of Colour
  • maintains a suspiciously white space, talks about supporting poc all the time but has only talked to three of them
  • “please give me a step-by-step guide for how to treat you like you’re not subhuman, I couldn’t possibly figure it out on my own, it’s all much too complex for me” aka acts like people of colour are mystical and incomprehensible creatures

#3 (The Third White)

  • “step on me o melanated goddess”
  • “#im white” on posts that they should not be reblogging at all
  • “my fellow whites need to listen up because I know I’ve been guilty of this in the past but it isn’t that hard to just not do it"
  • will probably reblog this very post

of course there’s mixing and matching. chuse your own adventure

iluvparkjihoon:

does anyone have that bias when they see a picture or video of them they  literally feel like their heart is going to burst out of their chest?? like a person who they would do anything for? someone who means the world to them?? if they do the simplest thing you swoon? you love them so much that you legitimately cannot put it into words?? just me???

nabyss:

ourqueenfelinefatale:

medusabraids:

medusabraids:

dark skinned black women deserve to see someone who looks like them play storm and if you brush them off and act like their valid criticisms of you playing storm are just hate and them trying to question your blackness then it’s obvious you don’t care about representation as much as you say you do 

when dark skinned black characters aren’t white washed they get light skinned actors to play them and none of these actors ever wanna talk about how they’re complicit in colourism but they’d have a lot to say if they chose a white actor to play that character

And this always happens with black female characters. Always. Especially in superhero franchises. Unless they are villains. 

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