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oceansunfire:

pocketsizedredhead:

oceansunfire:

pocketsizedredhead:

oceansunfire:

hey bi women, sometimes straight creators or famous bi celebrities will call bisexuality “flexible” or use lines like “i fall for people, not genitals”. please don’t replicate this rhetoric. it’s homophobic and transphobic, and it also displays a misunderstanding of what bisexuality is. to say that you fall for people, not genitals, posits that gay people are more cissexist, which is homophobic, and it also reduces trans people to genitalia, which is quintessential transphobia. also, saying that we’re “flexible” implies that bisexuality is an easygoing, transitional thing, and it also implies that gay people are inflexible or stubborn for being gay, which is homophobic. we should take pride in our bisexuality without being homophobic or transphobic, and in fact it’s quite easy to disseminate pride for ourselves without saying shitty things. 

Okay, I’m responding because I identify as bi and I’ve used the phrase “fall in love with people” before to describe it to people who don’t understand my sexuality (my parents).

But here’s the truth behind it: I do fall in love with people, I honestly could not give less of a fuck about what’s going on between their legs, genitalia wise. I don’t find genitalia sexy. Kindness, compassion, honesty, intelligence, passion, those things to me are sexy. THAT is what I fall in love with. Whether they identify as male, female, both, neither, to me it doesn’t matter. I don’t want to come across as homophobic or transphobic because I am not, but I shouldn’t have to feel shamed or parse my words. I am bi, and I do fall in love with people.

And you think you’re the only goddamn person in the world who “falls in love with people”? Bitch you aren’t special.

Never claimed to be special, Honey. Just not going to be shamed for who I am.

And you think you’re the only one who “won’t be shamed for who they are”? Again baby you aren’t special.

literally everyone falls in love with people. ‘Kindness, compassion, honesty, intelligence, passion, those things to me are sexy. THAT is what I fall in love with.’ = gay love, straight love, bi love. 

‘Whether they identify as male, female, both, neither, to me it doesn’t matter.‘ = being bi/pan. 

‘I don’t want to come across as homophobic or transphobic because I am not,‘ YES YOU ARE. implying gay and straight people care about genitals IS DIRECTLY HOMOPHOBIC AND TRANSPHOBIC. gay and straight people do NOT fall in love with genitals ffs 

can people get this into their heads jesus christ